Week 13- In Laws

       
            In my class this week one of the blog writing prompts to get my brain flowing was this: "When a couple gets married the Lord’s way they build eternal relationships — relationships that will never end. If we and extended family are true to temple covenants, not only will the husband-wife relationship be eternal, so will our ties with extended family and in-laws. Having said this, an important question arises: “How important is it to you to build close relationship with your in-laws?” Building close relationships may require time, effort, patience, and forgiveness. It may be difficult."
           The first part shares AMAZING doctrine! We will be with our spouse for all eternity when we build it the Lord’s way. And on top of that, our relationships with our family members will also be eternal. It is crucial that we build close relationships with in-laws.
            This week as we read about in-law relationships I thought about how I can nurture relationships between my family members and the members of my husband’s immediate family. My husband, David, and I got married after this school semester began and so it was a very busy time for us. We had a honey moon of one short weekend and then it was back to school, work, and my husband’s basketball team. It has been a crazy, busy time for both of us. David and I have both been focusing on our marriage and making it stronger. The question from the prompt made me think once again about the importance of building closer relationships with all our family members because they are also eternal. I think the best way to do this is through simple acts. Text messages, phone calls, video-chatting, going out for a quick treat, having family dinners together on occasion, and supporting each other by being at important events. Those little things are something anyone can do, and will go a long way.

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