Week 5- Your Behavior affects your Marriage

In 2007 at a general conference held by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin shared a story about an elderly couple who had been married for a long time. The women's health was declining in her old age. He quotes, "Because the wife was slowly losing her sight, she could no longer take care of herself the way she had done for so many years. Without being asked, the husband began to paint her fingernails for her.
“He knew that she could see her fingernails when she held them close to her eyes, at just the right angle, and they made her smile. He liked to see her happy, so he kept painting her nails for more than five years before she passed away.”
That is an example of the pure love of Christ. Sometimes the greatest love is not found in the dramatic scenes that poets and writers immortalize. Often, the greatest manifestations of love are the simple acts of kindness and caring we extend to those we meet along the path of life." 

This story melted my heart. This is the type of husband every women deserves.
Today when we go to the movies or listen to a song, love is not predicted like this. It is predicted in whirl wind romances where the chemistry is all that matters. You do not see behind the scenes of the people struggling, sacrificing, and striving to become better in order to make a relationship work. Today we see one night stands where the love is passionate but the worth of the relationship (and potential relationship) is not even given a second thought. When I think of the romantic movies today I do not picture elderly couples who have loved each other for years and years painting the finger nails of the wife who can barely see because he knows it will make her happy.
This story has inspired me to want to serve my own husband more. And not only my husband, but everyone around me. In order to this though I realize I need to observe what little things really will make the difference to him.
What are some things you could do in order to serve your spouse and grow your relationship? 

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